[xubuntu] VNC to lightdm

Hello,

I would like to be able to access my family PC from my other xubuntu/windows PCs, however I want to get to the login screen, not to an open session.

I followed https://help.ubuntu.com/community/VNC unsuccessfully.

I run on my family PC:
Unfortunately, when I connect from vncviewer in another PC into my PC, I see and have control over my wifes session while she's on the PC. While this had some funny applications while I was testing it, it was not what I wanted. I expected to see the lightdm login screen.

How can I get x11vnc to connect to lightdm and show me the login screen instead of my wifes session?

Thanks.